__BEING A GIRL __

 by Afsana

First things first,  I  want to clear out that this article is not about feminism or social equality.

It's about BEING A GIRL! 

Although I am born into a body that is labeled as a FEMALE. So being a woman  means sharing a special connection and corner that is  above the race, age, sexuality, social oppressions!

Honestly, I am not a person who is chasing big dreams to fly up above the sky but I do have some exquisite expectations with life ! ( Believing the LORD ). I admire myself for staying true to MYSELF.  It's okay not to be okay sometimes. You should know how to deal with it. You can run from everything, the situation, the feelings, the emotions but how could you escape from selfhood. Darling, it's you. You are incomplete if you are not real or true to yourself. You can be a bold-face liar, who always try to convince herself that things were better than they seemed but u can't deny the reality...the truth. So staying true with yourself is most important!

Clouds will swallow our space! same as the clouds swallow the emptiness of the sky. Don't allow anyone to control your individuality. 

 

Balancing the chaotic world

Most of the time forward,

No one knows her noceur nights

The world called her a careless quaintrelle freak,

Her smile always held her tears back

Even though her heart was a lacuna,

She is the only thing

That I want to call MINE ♡

                            ~afsAna

ADJUSTMENTS 

Adjustment is not only for females, Both men and women live in this society, so it's quite obvious that adjustments are *favourous from us. But here, I am talking about the adjusting phases of a woman. *(Being a woman)*

When you wake up in the morning, you should give a moment  to yourself.   "we have so much to personify " my girls!

Stand in front of the mirror and give a look at every new crevice, every roll of skin, and every scar.  

The minute we leave the house,  some special characterized men will start eyeballing you. Next, off to work. A man on the bus or in any *crowded place will think it's okay to press up against you. It's fairly in their mind that you are actually present for this. ( A served meal in front of them to fall on ). And you know what " The cherry on the cake " is, there are some women who have these expressions like "JUST LET  IT GO"  or "AVOID IT "  and  I'll tell you what's the reason behind  this :  Feeling insecure, shyness, lack of confidence, etc.  Talking about adjustments... the first person who clicks in our mind is our MOTHER.  She is the spine of the family!  With endless love and patience, she holds us. No matter what the situation is.  Though it's wrong to say that she adjusts for their children or family because through her perception it's called "ETERNAL LOVE ". But we are nowhere in a stage to understand what's called  "love " and what's called to  "Accommodate "!    *(think about it)*

         

SOFTNESS IS NOT ABOUT WEAKNESS 

"Softness is not weakness. It takes courage to stay delicate in a world this cruel" 

                                         _BEAU TAPLIN

"Girls are likely to be soft " is a customized sentence that is usually used to describe females. Well, I have no problem with this. I personally feel we girls are softer in comparison to another sexual role.[ General discussion]

But, Do you all really  understand what I want to elaborate about SOFTNESS? I don't think so. There are many of us who thinks softness means "weakness ", It's a trait (character) which means to be " down-and-out " !  But I really feel sorry for them. Their boundaries of  mind's exertion are quite small!

Being soft (for any sexuality) is about that they have the admiration to deal with circumstances by their calmness, politeness, delicacy, and love (as a power of their gaze)  in this harsh and cruel society. And I think that's the strongest person!  So being soft is "Not in the same street "!

Apart from this discussion about softness... There are many who after destruction or break-down, lock themselves inside a hardened core. Their heart became a burden for them. They Start distrusting and resenting that soft corner. In the end, it becomes so nakedly vulnerable.

 

EMOTIONS

While listening in our daily routine, females are too emotional, too sensitive!

Are women more emotional than men?

Maybe.   Men could be described as more emotional than women too. It depends on the sort of emotion and how it is being expressed. Most researchers agreed that women are more emotionally expressive. But not that they have more emotions than men. In numerous studies, females score higher than Males in standard tests of emotion recognition, social sensitivity, and empathy. Women share their emotions more openly with others as compared to men.

Research shows that women are more likely to experience intense positive emotions.  ( in a normal language we can say "POSITIVITY".)  Such as joy and happiness in any way as compared to men. So, it seems that women's intense positive emotions balance out their higher risk of depression.  And finds that they are more likely to access the treatment successfully__ as they allow themselves to recover faster.

The other side of this discussion is women are more likely to prioritize the needs of others over their own __ and over time this can lead to resentment and feeling unfulfilled.

INTUITION OR SIXTH-SENSE 

There is a movie "THE SIXTH-SENSE "  Haley Joel Osment's special ability is seeing and talking to dead people.  Well  I gave this information to you so that you can part the fiction and reality in two different ways.

Intuition or sixth sense is just an extra-sensory perspective beyond our five commonly recognized senses: Hearing, Taste, Smell, Sight, and Touch. It is as normal as our five senses. It's not about becoming something supernatural.  Yah but you can say women are more privileged in this section.

Women sixth-sense is scientifically described as women tend to have better bilateral use of their brains. In other words, they use both sides of the brain. They pay more attention to the right side of the brain, which is responsible for more intuitive perception. And to allow more intuition, brought up more in touch with their feelings.

As we know there is adrenaline or simply adrenal gland in our body which helps us to react simultaneously. Though sixth-sense is so coinciding with the qualities for women.

In this article, I've lightened up some queries of women. I am  not a playwright who can redefine as stupendously but here's a short  giveaway  from the bottom of my heart ♡

No two women are the same, we are equally marvelous!